I’ve just looked back at my Monthly Musing forJanuary last year and it was all about taking care, and in particular, taking care of myself. It’s been something that I’ve thought about quite regularly over the year and of all the resolutions I’ve ever had, I think this is the one that’s lasted the longest. I may not always have been great at it, but there’s always room for improvement whatever we do, and I’m happy to spend some more time working on it this year.
What I’m also going to do this year is have more fun. It feels a bit odd to write this, as if I’m sitting in a huge armchair somewhere saying, “Come on then, entertain me, make me laugh” but that’s not quite what I had in mind.
As a family, we had a lot of fun in the run up to Christmas and that’s when I realised that I don’t always stop to enjoy the moment as much as I should do. I smile a lot, but I don’t laugh as much as I probably should do, and you might feel that you are the same. After all, there’s a lot going on in the world that certainly isn’t fun and we might wonder if it’s right to be enjoying ourselves when others have it so much worse than us. But having fun isn’t just about going out to planned events, it’s about finding the fun in the moment. There are times when small daughter is reeling off bad joke after bad joke when it really doesn’t feel like fun at all, but I know there have also been opportunties when I could have stopped what I was doing for just a minute to laugh.
I’m not a fan of taking Bible quotations out of context, but these words came to me:
“When I became a man, I gave up childish ways” (1 Corinthians, 13:11)
and made me wonder if we tend to associate fun with childhood and feel that it is incompatible with life in the Real World. But why should fun be something that we watch our children do whilst we work around them, cooking, cleaning and earning a living? When was that moment that we became a Grown Up and we stopped giving ourselves permission to have fun? How many times have you said, “Oh, I used to love doing that” or “I used to play that game when I was little”? I’ve done it a lot recently. Why shouldn’t we still do these things? Yes, we have to work a bit harder to fit it in around the Grown Up stuff that we need to do, but isn’t it true that things you have to work for are all the more appreciated?
If I’m honest, the quotation from the Bible makes me feel a bit sad, although I know that Bible stories are often metaphors and not required to be taken literally. I don’t want to plan all my fun moments in advance with an appropriate entry on the calendar. I need to remember that taking care of myself also means laughing more, and I’ve decided I’m going to use this quotation as a reminder for the year instead:
“Adults are obligated to have fun so that children will want to grow older”
Now isn’t that much more fun?
Happy New Year! xx